100 Things Your Elder Care Provider Wants You To Know

Tonight, after many months of preparation, formatting and clumsy e-tech, with a non-e-tech fizz… unlike you e-tech whizzes out there in Cyber land–  Suzy Right has FINALLY launched her first of 4 ebooks on elder care.  This ebook is aptly titled, “100 Things Your Elder Care Provider Wants You To Know,” and the cost is $3.99 wherever fine ebooks are sold.

As you may know from Suzy’s first FREE ebook (DeClutter You Stuff AND Simplify Your Life,) she’s in the final stages of formatting 3 more ebooks about her insights and experiences from 20 years of performing quality elder care with too many families to count.  Each and every single client and family is unique and gifted in so many ways… and despite the infrequent disagreement there may have been, Suzy is grateful to all the amazing people she’s been privileged to work with… and even the most challenging clients teach us the most we need to learn, right?  Elder care works best when performed with love and patience, and each time I’ve worked with a senior, it is like taking care of my own family!  People are always surprising me– do they surprise you?– and the most surprising thing of all is how much love and respect I feel for all the good folks I’ve worked with.  Many, of whom are now passed.  And I thank you for knowing you all.  My memories are in tact– often causing me to shed a few tender tears or side-spliting laughter, when something rises to the forefront of my mind from my many, many memories of working with our elders and their families

And, since we’re smack in the middle of the Christmas season, and with a busy 3 generation family, herself, Suzy is thrilled beyond belief, to have gotten Elder Care ebook #1 on  ebook pages!  She wishes all her readers a very blessed holiday season and a thoroughly joyous season of sharing and caring with beloved family members, the world over!

To commemorate this unfolding, and to say, ‘thank you for your patience, one and all,’ Suzy also has re-released her DeClutter ebook with a new reduced price: FREE!  It is within the spirit of giving to mankind, to help out wherever we all may, that Declutter is dedicated to all those who wish to simplify their lives and cast off unnecessary stuff– and perhaps pass some along to the next user.  Now matter which way you say it, Merry Christmas–

See you after the holidays– when we’ll start talking about the who-what-where-when-how-and why of quality elder care!  Bless you, One and All!

Love, Suzy Right

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Living The Good Life: Family, Friends & Fun For Senior Citizens!

by Suzy Right llc

In Brief…

 With 20 years experience caring for seniors in their homes, I’ve learned a few things.  Such as, those who have strong ties to family and community, are less likely to feel alone, isolated.  Even a weekly luncheon with the gang, gives us a reason to get up in the morning!  Often, when we’re raising our families, the household and kids are enough to keep us busy and fulfilled.  Ironically, it seems that the more time that passes, when the kids grow up and away, many of us are left alone.  The time we need the connections the most can be the time when we have fewer and fewer.  Neighbors and friends move away or pass on… we’re left alone.  But, keeping active, busy and engaged in life can be more simpler than you think!  Read on for ideas.

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I love people.  So when I had the opportunity to work with seniors in their homes, I jumped at the chance.  Senior citizens are usually patient, tolerant, and appreciative.  And many enjoy a good story!  But some I’ve met are also sad.  And I saw a pattern to this sadness.  It seemed that whenever a client was moody or sullen, it was generally related to being alone.  Lonely.  And I could see why.  From my e-book, “Elder Care Stories: Real Life Experience Working With Elders,” I relate how many seniors I met were basically alone, with very narrow circles of remaining friends and family.  Those times were especially trying, since I am a very gregarious person: and always busy with some new adventure.  It’s easy to be adventurous when you’re young and your kids are young… but sometimes adventures seem to fade away in our sunset years.  But it doesn’t have to be that way!

What about attending church or synagogue or Mosque?  Spiritual ties keep us hopeful.  It may be time to re-evaluate life’s disappointments through a spiritual lens, within the dimension that there is reason for everything that happens to us.  Exploring our spirituality is a door: try walking through!  And remember, that it isn’t up to anyone else to define another’s relationship with the Almighty.  But as one who spent many hours with senior citizens, we often spoke about the spiritual.  I was there to listen.  And support.  Not to lecture, or inform.

What about neighborhood affiliations?  Theatre clubs?  Dinner or lunch clubs?  Bridge games?  Even Bingo?  Groups such as these are always looking for those interested in making a contribution of input.  What about outside interests?  Community gardens?  Teaching a class: sewing, handicrafts, wood working, car care–  people are always looking for information.  Even PBS TV, which showcases all kinds of ideas of staying engaged with life–  got an idea to share?  What about volunteer work?  One lady I knew couldn’t get around too well.  But she could knit up a storm!  So she knit baby blankets, receiving blankets, for newborn babies.  A friend made the suggestion that hospitals were happily accepting handmade blankets for newborns.  And the young moms were grateful to have them.   Another man I knew called his friends, asking for them to donate whatever shoes they no longer needed: the shoes were going to homeless shelters.  He organized the pickups a few times a year.  And was completely satisfying to his sense of brotherhood.  Another man did likewise with suits to recovering alcoholics who needed to look their best upon re-entry into the work field.  A woman did similar with women’s clothing for the local battered women’s shelter.  Then she also taught them how to have eye contact and talk on a job interview.  This is life-changing: for both the giver and the receiver.  And senior citizens have much to give!

I also walked people’s dogs.  And just that simple act brought me into contact with neighbors, galore!  With my charges’ permission, I’d extend an invitation to neighbors here or there, just to pay a call to my seniors to talk.  It worked wonders!  Just getting ready for ‘company,’ put a smile on many faces.  The key is feeling useful to others.  I found that even a simple suggestion like, helping to prepare a meal for someone in need, became a driving force to get out of bed in the morning.  I would share news articles with those interested in that particular subject.  One gentleman I was privileged to care for, worked in the space program.  Any program on TV that appealed to that time of our history, would light up his face and send him chattering about the miracles of titanium steel and its many uses!  Then I’d search science magazines for articles about the current uses of titanium steel–  to bridge his stories with modern history.  He’d nod in gratitude with a heavenly smile.

These aren’t just ‘things to do:’  these ideas build bridges between the past and the future.  Often, when senior citizens sense that life has passed them by, that they have outlived their usefulness, they are despondent, subdued, melancholy–  and usually when the talk starts to include the need for prescription drugs.  I’m not saying to do away with scripts, but, not all feelings of sadness can be (or should be,) eradicated through prescription drugs.  Besides, most senior citizens today did not grow up with the free use of drugs (except the hippies of the 60’s, perhaps!)  But, not all sadness or regret can be countered with drugs.  An attitudinal change works wonders!  And how can we achieve that except by re-thinking our lives and situations, but with fresh insights?  Turn the thought from the darkness of feeling alone, to the light of being and doing!

Living the good life.  Isn’t that what everyone wants?  Why live it only when you’re young?  It is said that today’s aged 50 is the new 40; 60 is the new 50; 70 is the new 60 and 80 is the new 70; and so on.  Let’s live it!  Get going!  Get involved!

Living The Good Life: Family, Friends and Fun For Senior Citizens

By Suzy Right, llc ©2013

Copyright 2013 Suzy Right llc

Why You Want To De-Clutter Grandma’s House

copyright Suzy Right llc 2013

In brief…

There comes a time in everyone’s life when we all need a little help.  This blog is dedicated to the care of elders, so the best place to start is by taking a good look at your loved one’s space.  Is it easy to navigate?  Clutter-free?  Safe?  Can you find things easily?  Not only must your elder navigate the space– but, in the event that she needs in-home care, can others navigate it safely, too?  Especially at night?  As children, we’re taught to “pick up your room,” for good cause: to keep the space neat, clean and safe.  Ditto at any age, but especially when we slow down and our vision isn’t what it used to be.  The less stuff we have under foot, the safer we are.  The author has 20 years experience in the elder-care business, and has written several ebooks about elder care and organization.  The more we know before we tackle a task, the more effective our solutions.  The purpose of Suzy’s writings is to help people.  And the more info the public has at its fingertips, the better for us all! 

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 America’s population is aging.  If this had been the case generations ago, it wouldn’t have been a big deal– three-generation families were common, so naturally, everyone cared for each other.  Now, however, the landscape has changed and the generations live very separate lives, but for ‘sandwich’ geners who care for their elders as well as the grandchildren.  And who helps out?  Anyone they can trust to the job.  The field of elder-care is booming.  So how does this relate to why you want to de-clutter grandma’s house?  To be prepared before more hands come onboard.

In our own family, we’ve moved many times, necessitating us to de-clutter our stuff regularly.  We de-clutter each time we bring home something new by donating something else.  ‘One for one.’  Otherwise our domicile would resemble an antique shop– but we’re not in the business!  Ultimately, too much stuff is a burden.  But for someone who has spent decades in the same spot, the same house, while the children and grandchildren grow up then leave to live their own lives, the idea of “de-cluttering” can be overwhelming, even painful.  The term, ‘de-cluttering,’ implies that treasures are mere clutter.  Cast-offs or trash.  But that is not what I’m saying.  These things are treasures to someone: memories, belongings.  But when too much of even the best of everything impedes us from living safely, these treasures become a burden.  Then it is time to lighten the load.

I had the pleasure of caring for a wonderful woman who grew up dirt poor.  She married, lived modestly with her husband as they raised their boys, then was widowed and grew old in the same house, for some sixty years.  After months of home care, it was time for this lovely great-great-grandmother to reside in assisted living.  Her family asked me to help– so I quietly packed a few boxes of her precious things, and handed them off to the family.  A few days later, we all drove to the new place.  Her things were already on the shelves, so she felt at home and it was a peaceful transition. **

Every family must plan ahead for the day when their beloved needs a helping hand.  That could mean a ‘visiting angel’ for a few hours, or 24-hour care by someone like me, or other choices.  But in any case, start with de-cluttering grandmother’s house.  Clear all pathways for foot traffic, especially in case of an emergency.  Are doorways and windows accessible?  Do stacks of stuff pose fire hazard– or risk of falling?  Do solar nightlights illumine adequately?  Where are the telephones?  And wires?  Are safety bars installed in wall studs?  Towel racks, for example, don’t support weight during a fall: they yank easily from the wall, compounding risk of injury.  Using towel racks for safety bars is what I call, false security: it’s worse than having nothing there at all. ***

The safety reasons to de-clutter a house are as diverse as each situation.  Start by taking a walk-through your loved one’s space and imagine moving unsteadily, slowly– and not seeing very clearly.  What “tools” would enable safe-keeping?  The risk of seniors injured in a fall is very high– and costly.  In all ways.  Don’t go down that path.  Instead, employ the art of de-cluttering as a front line tool to keep your elder safe in his or her own home.  De-cluttering simplifies life, making it easier and safer: de-cluttering is peace of mind.  –Blessed day, one and all!  And thanks for reading!

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** Check out Suzy Right’s books about, “How To De-Clutter Your House In 30 Minutes A Day,” plus her Elder Care experiences at smashwords.com and wherever fine ebooks are sold.  Thank you!

*** Read, “Dear Jan- Elder Care,” by Suzy Right, for more discussion on safety “tools” for seniors.

Write Suzy at:  suzyright@caringforelders.net

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